Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Gay Hookup Sites Review

ManHunt

I have joined Manhunt for a while now. The atmosphere there is usually exciting. The site itself is not bombarded with tons of ads like others do. They have many cool features such as private messaging, chatting, blocking unwanted users, and seeing who’s online. The cool feature about it that I like is the “Who’s online” section. Manhunt has been around for a long time now, considering that, it has quite many gay men join them. However, the downside about it is that, you have to pay for the service. It’s annoying me sometime that when I reach the limit for free membership, I was stuck there – could not preview any other profiles, could not read/send any more messages. It’s frustrating!!

http://www.manhunt.net

Adam4Adam

I joined this site last year. The first time I saw it, I didn’t like it at all. The interface design is not very friendly. But I like the fact that it has people in my area. So I went ahead and signed up. The site is just full of advertisements, and I could not stand staying online for more than 5 minutes. Until now, I logged on to the site only once in a while. I really don’t have much comment about this site for I don’t use it much.

http://www.adam4adam.com

YetAnotherM4M

This is my new discover this year a few months ago. It seems to be a start-up dating/hookup site. The design of the site is very professional, and I really like the fact that it’s not full of advertisements. The system itself is easy to use. There are a lot of features that I like to use such as sending flirts, requesting hang out and hookup (ahem lol – guilty is charged). I can track who opens my email there so that I know who is interested and who is not. I can also post an instant ad to let other men in my area know what I am looking for. Best of all yet, it’s FREE!!!! I don’t have to deal with the limitations per day. The downside about it though is that, since it’s new, some cities/states probably have not known about the site yet.

http://www.yetanotherm4m.com

What about you? What other hookup sites you go to? And what’s your take on it/them? I gave up on gay.com J

Monday, March 1, 2010

M4M - California Guy

Well, I'm doomed! Did I just cheat on JC? I think so. Now, I am full of guilt and clueless. I have been with JC over a month now, but the relationship thing just does not seem to go toward what I expected. But I still like him. He's very nice, pure, and cute. But there I was, meeting a new guy that just moved from California.

He has just been in the town for a week. He found me on yetanotherm4m website and messaged me. We exchanged IMs and we have been chatting for a few days. Then tonight he invited me over to his place. We talked, did some workouts (hm... I was joking that he needed to be shirtless and in his undie while working out, who knew he really did it). He's a hottie. I was in temptation while checking him out in his undie, hehe.... Then we watched South Park. At first, it was very casual, but then he gradually moved his hand and started caressing my thigh. I was getting hard for a moment. Right after the show finished, he asked me to maybe stay for a little bit of cuddling. Well, I did. But that's it. I am still not sure why he told me that there's a hot guy at the club that he wanted to ask out. Can someone really do that? I mean, cuddling with me but talking about asking another person out? Or he was just being dumb? hehe... I think he was just trying to find dates, and is not exactly looking for any committed relationship.

Either way, I feel bad. I already had JC, but I was tempted to cuddle with another guy. Although we didn't do anything, but I think the act justifies my cheating. Sometimes, being single is better. But when you are single, no one comes along. It's a curse of life. *sigh* ...... Maybe, he's just another guy that passes me by.

Saturday, January 23, 2010

M4M - JC - Part 2

JC drives me crazy sometime. First of, he told me to go on manhunt.net and looked for another guy to hook up with. lol not sure if he meant it or not. When I text him to see if he misses me, he said maybe and asked if I miss him. I said yes, then he would say me too. Often time, I feel that this unknown relationship to him is nothing but a joke. Or maybe, he never thought hard into it like I do. I know it's been only a couple weeks, and I don't want to expect anything out of it. My rule about going for a relationship is that - I'd rather it not work now before we both go any further and end up breaking each other's heart.

So this weekend he came up to see me and we went out. I was a little bit tipsy, and I noticed he was so self-conscious about himself. Subconsciously, I saw him as a guy who lacks of self-confidence, and is intimidated by the fact that he's a little bit chubby (average type to me). He didn't have fun at the club. Probably, he could not drink anymore until October this year (that's what you get when you drink and drive), so he could not loosen up. I just hope that although he found the club boring, but at least he enjoyed being with me and dancing with me.

Anyway, we got in an argument last night after returning from a new open gay club here. I introduced him to a friend of mine. I told my friend that JC is my man. First of, my friend was asking if I wanted to go smoking with him and I said no because I don't smoke. Then he asked if JC smokes, then JC answered that once in a while. Then he asked JC to go smoking. JC turned to me and said let's go. I was like what the heck. I of course said no because I don't like to smoke and if JC smokes, I would never let him tongue kiss me that night. He does realize how much I don't want to make out with a smoker. I was glad he didn't go, and my friend decided to stay. Then he asked my friend why not dancing? My friend looked at me and said let's go to dance. I didn't want to go and told JC to go dancing if he wanted to. Well, he didn't. It was a test, haha.... So he passed that one. But I started to realize that JC was kind of interested in my friend.

JC asked me if I wanted to drink something. I said no, and he was going to buy my friend a drink, but my friend also said no. JC returned and my friend went to talk to a lesbian. JC asked me to go dancing, I said okay. So we went. But then, he kept talking to me about what my friend was doing. He was literally observing my friend. I was disappointed and I suggested that we should go back home, but he wanted to stay a little bit longer. So we sat down again. My eyes were looking around but in fact, I was observing what he was doing. He was actually looking at my friend a few times. I felt that he was hoping that my friend would return to the seat and talked to us. It was a horrible scene to me to realize that he was actually checking out another guy who happens to be a friend I introduced him to. He kept asking me who I was looking at. I said no one and I became all quiet that night.

We finally decided to leave the club. The club itself was dead anyway. He asked me on the way home that why I wasn't talking anymore. I was sober already by the time I saw what he did. I refused to say anything and I thought that it's over between us. He kept asking me until I said what happened at the club. At first he said he wasn't looking at my friend, or my friend has a cute face but chubby body, etc. Then I confronted him, and he finally admitted that yeah he was looking at my friend a few times. I never expected him to be blind towards men he saw, but you can tell when you look at someone in a spontaneous way and in an intentional way. I told him that it's not late for him to find someone else that would be okay for him to do that right in the face and that I tend to be jealous. So if he's not okay with who I am, it's better to decide now then find out later. He said he liked me and wanted me, but what can I trust and what can I not trust. I really lost the ability to trust him.

He dared to tell me that gay relationship does not last long. To me, it's because sometimes we don't enjoy what we have. It's like what we have is not good enough. We wanted someone else to make us feel good, feel flattered and wanted. But for me, he's already good enough that night. I did not check anyone out because I was with him and it's not an obligation but a respect that I can best give to a guy that I am dating with. It's just a very basic thing, but why some people are so hard to do it? The grass is not always greener on the other side.

The entire night, he apologized and wanted to cuddle and kiss, but I could not do it. If it's meant to be over, I really don't want to pursue any intimate actions. If it was a hook up from the beginning, then I would not mind. But it was an unknown relationship that I wanted to make it become known. Obviously, I am into him. So by the morning came, we made up and I forgave him by giving him another chance.

It happened to me once in the past that a guy I was seeing was asking another guy's number on the dance floor right in front of me. Gay clubs are probably bad place to go to for boyfriends. It requires a lot of security and mutual trust to be able to stand there and resist all the temptations in front of your eyes. My ideal relationship is not just intimate when the door is shut, but also in an acceptable gay environment that we can still be together and no bullshits.

M4M - JC - Part 1

It started with this guy that I met a few months ago at the local gay club. That time, we were just friends, then he went back to Mexico for a while. He came back and tried to re-connect with me, and we started to hang out, and that's how we were together.

At first, I was confused for the fact that we just slept together doing cuddling and kissing (no sex lol) because I did not know what to define about our relationship. Friends with benefits? I don't want that. Boyfriend? Too soon for that. Then I realize that, why would I be so caught up in this type of "labeling?" I decided to just go with the flow and get to know him better. One part of me was that I just like this guy a little bit. It's not strong enough for me to make any decisions yet. Therefore, I gave this unknown relationship a try.

Thursday, January 7, 2010

Gay Asian & White Men

I accidentally ran into a comment on Gay Banker's Blog. See the author of the blog is a white man and into Asian men. One of the comment stated like this:

"My experience has been that younger white gay men usually add the "No asians please" in their ads. But, as they grow older and they don't get any hot white guys, they go for the younger asian guys. The asian guys, on the other hand, who may have a low self esteem, due to being rejected by a lot of white men, feel a sense of achievement, when they are chased by a white man, even though the white man is older."

What's your take on that? Is it true? It'd be interesting....

Saturday, January 2, 2010

Drama Queen

I went out on New Year's eve. I had to drink so my friend was driving. When the club was about to close, I kind of hooked my friend up with a black dude. So we three went to Sharis to eat before going back to my friend's house. Heck, that black guy's body is so masculine like a man, but his personality is totally a bitch. He was such a drama queen. He created scene at the restaurant. I felt it's funny but at the same time embarrassed because he was loud and got pretty much attention.

Sometimes, I don't understand why some gay guys need to create scenes to able to survive? It can't be just a bitch/queen because all the female friends that I know they don't act like that in public regardless they are drunk or not. But I have seen a few gay men that do stuff like that in a public setting. *sigh*........